Bridesmaids, Fairy Tales and Dresses, Oh My!
Written by Katie on June 4, 2008 – 6:34 pm -“I was a bridesmaid in a friends about two years ago, and we have since grown apart. Now I’m getting married and trying to decide who I should ask to be bridesmaids. Should I ask her to be one of my bridesmaid since I was in her wedding?
Should you? That’s up to you, really! But, if you have grown apart, there are probably other women with whom you have become close to and would rather have as your ‘maids. In addition, if you and your old pal are on the same page and both feel like you’ve grown apart, she probably wouldn’t be offended if she’s not asked. If you’re not close any more, why should you?
Be careful, though, to make sure it’s not just you that feels that your relationship has crumbled! If she still feels like you have a good thing going and doesn’t realize what has happened, she may be very offended that you don’t ask. Does she know that you’re engaged? Will she be invited to the wedding? If yes and she hasn’t said anything about being part of your wedding party, she may simply not mind or she may be giving you the cold shoulder (but if you haven’t talked in a while, you may never know)! The best and only sure-fire way to find out her feelings is to ask her. It might be difficult to do now, but it will definitely prevent problems in the future!
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“I have always dreamed of having a fairy tale, over the top, pull out all the stops wedding. Now that I’m actually engaged, I have to deal with reality and the fact is, my budget definitely can’t handle an over the top wedding! What can I do to have my dream wedding on my real-world budget?”
Bad News? A modest budget can’t get you everything you have ever dreamed of. Good news? Brides deal with this every day, you’re not the only one! That being said, people have come up with many “solutions” as to how to save a few bucks and still have an amazing event.
To start, think about the elements you feel create that “dream event”. Is it a grand cathedral in which to say your vows? It is a ornate reception venue? Is it large, lush centerpiece arrangements? Is it a elegant, full skirted tulle gown? If you can zero in on what you feel really gives the event that “dream event” vibe, you’ll better know how to allocate your money. You may be able to have all the other things you want if you don’t have a plated dinner. Perhaps a dessert bar, wedding cake, and drinks would do the trick. Or, you could have the wedding at your second or third choice venue in order to have your reception at your favorite place. Just prepare yourself to make these kinds of decisions and it should help the planning process go much more smoothly for you!
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“I can’t decide on a wedding dress! I’ve tried on what feels like every dress under the sun and yet I haven’t found ‘the one’! Help?”
Not every bride has a moment when the world stops as she looks into the mirror and sees herself in the dress she has dreamed of her entire life. Perhaps the thought of purchasing a wedding dress never even occurred to you until someone asked what your gown looked like. Or maybe it’s just not the most important thing on your list. And that’s okay! To help you make a decision, try the following.
-Bring one or two of your most trusted friends or family members that know a thing or two about fashion and aren’t afraid to tell you like it is. They can assist you in selecting a dress that doesn’t look like it came form a different era (unless that’s what you’re wanting!) and they will tell you if dresses look funny on you without beating around the bush.
-Know what looks good on your body type. Perhaps a hip-hugging number isn’t the best for your lower half or a dress that shouldn’t require undergarments up top isn’t the greatest choice for your upper half. In the end, you can get whatever wedding gown you want! But, it’s true that certain things will look better on you than others.
-Notice the gowns in which you feel pretty and special. You know that outfit in your closet that, whenever you put it on, you’re unstoppable? It makes you feel confident and gorgeous? Apply the same concept to your wedding dress. When you put a dress on and it makes you feel great, consider adding it to your “keep” pile!
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