Written by Katie on June 4, 2008 – 6:25 pm -
No two brides are alike! Therefore, neither are two wedding planning experiences, fiances, or weddings. That’s being said, just because your buddy just got married and didn’t have to lift a finger to help his bride, don’t get too comfortable quite yet! Before you step off the Wedding Planning Express or take over the driver’s seat, take a look below where you can find some tips on working with your bride in a way that’s best for both of you!
Before you read on, don’t forget this is your wedding too! If you want to be really involved, more power to you! We’ll talk about getting your way in another article!
The Control Freak Bride
Profile: She could be a grooms worst nightmare or ultimate fantasy, it just depends on how much he wants to be involved!
How to deal: If your bride tends to micro-manage or has a very set image of how “her” wedding should look, approach wedding-related topics delicately. Always know how she feels about something before you mention it. It’s a hard thing to do, but have faith! Pay attention when she’s talking weddings. Know what her “image” is and pay particular attention to the details, because chances are, that’s where she’s most focused. Then, when you want to bring up, say, the alter arrangements, you’ll already know what she has in mind. And, since you know your bride better than anyone, you’ll know how to get the information you want or how to persuade her towards something else without causing any troubles.
The Too-Relaxed Bride
Profile: This is the bride that just wants to get married! She doesn’t really care if the napkins are cream or bright white or ivory.
How to deal: You may end up being the main wedding planning force behind the big day if you have a bride like this! Just because she’s not picky doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t care, but you may have to push (or pull) her along the planning process to make sure the to-do list gets completed. That might mean making appointments with the florist or baker, or just showing up to make sure a final decision is made. Just a hint: It would serve you well to have a little planner with some notes to make sure you’re not a week from the wedding and still don’t have a cake picked out!
The Middle-of-the-Road Bride
Profile: She is excited about planning the wedding, but she’s not too picky. She wants your opinion but doesn’t expect you to take charge.
How to deal: You’ll make her happy by showing up and giving your input when she asks. She might have an idea as to what she wants for the big day, but she’s open to ideas, so throw a few her way!
The Indecisive Bride
Profile: She either loves or hates having options, but no matter what, she never can seem to make a final decision.
How to deal: Help make those decisions! This is a really great opportunity to get exactly what you want. If she can’t decide between a square cake and a round cake, and you like square the best, tell her you prefer square and why is really is the best option for the two of you!
The Worrying Bride
Profile: Everything little detail can be a source of worry. She might obsess over the tiny things, or get herself worked up over things that, in actuality, she can’t control. How to deal: Be there to reassure her every step along the way. Explain why things will be okay and why she doesn’t need to worry! And help her deal when things do go wrong (because it’s bound to happen). If nothing else, distract her!
The list could go on and on, and, it’s safe to say any one bride can be any combination of the above. Use that handsome noggin of yours figure out how your bride is and how to handle each situation! We know you can do it! After all, you ARE marrying the woman!
And Brides, don’t get us wrong! Grooms can have these characteristics too! You know how to help your man! Help away!
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